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Pam wrote a new post, What is Anxiety 3 years, 7 months ago
Many years ago, I was sitting across from a therapist who asked me to describe how a specific event made me feel. To my astonishment, I was UNABLE to put a descriptor to my own feelings. Then the look of shock o […]
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Pam wrote a new post, Empathy: the Codependent Form of Projection 3 years, 7 months ago
As a person with codependent tendencies, it is difficult to accept that the reason we find ourselves in dysfunctional relationships with personality disordered partners, is because of what we have in common, […]
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Pam wrote a new post, Projection: the Disordered Form of Empathy 3 years, 10 months ago
Those of us who possess the ability to empathize, find it difficult to comprehend NOT being able to put ourselves into other people’s shoes. Much the same way that those of us who can see colors, cannot im […]
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Pam commented on the post, When is RAGE Acceptable? 3 years, 10 months ago
Hi, HKB. It has been my life long experience in dealing with disordered people, to finally, and painfully, come to the realization that peace with these people is not an option. Peace makes them angry. Your […]
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Pam wrote a new post, At Peace with Anxiety 4 years, 3 months ago
Today I was walking my dogs through my beautiful neighborhood. The sun was shining, birds were chirping. Deer were rustling and I could see their white tails prancing as they leapt away. The winter t […]
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Pam wrote a new post, 10 Keys to Happiness for the New Year 4 years, 4 months ago
Gratitude
Instead of dwelling on what is lacking in your life, acknowledge the good.
Self Care
Charity really does begin at home. Tend to your own needs first. This is not a selfish th […]
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Pam wrote a new post, When is RAGE Acceptable? 4 years, 8 months ago
Never.
Well, not exactly “never”. But for an adult, rage is never, ever an acceptable response. Rage is effective yet very dysfunctional method of shutting down all other forms of communication. A raging […]
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Pam wrote a new post, Triangulation 4 years, 11 months ago
If you know a narcissist, borderline or other disordered person in any more than just a casual acquaintance manner, you will be triangulated. Triangulation is a skill that comes inherent to manipulative people who […]
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Pam commented on the post, The Borderline Mother – a 20/20 Hindsight 5 years, 1 month ago
Indeed. Having a disordered parent has only 2 possible outcomes for the child. They adopt the behaviors of the disordered parent, in that they become predatory (kill or be killed), or they become the perpetual […]
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Pam wrote a new post, The Borderline Mother – a 20/20 Hindsight 5 years, 1 month ago
IMAGINE.
As a young child, an optometrist prescribed glasses for you and as soon as you put them on, you realized that you could see better without them. Everyone, including the optometrist, insisted that you […]
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Pam wrote a new post, Your Codependency is Killing You 5 years, 2 months ago
At some point during your journey to understand why your life seems to be unraveling, you stumbled across an article on social media about Narcissism, or perhaps your therapist recommended a book on the topic. […]
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Pam wrote a new post, The Symbiotic Relationship Between the Somatic Narcissist and the Gold Digger 5 years, 6 months ago
Most articles about relationships with narcissists center around the narcissist and codependent archetypes. But have you ever wondered if narcissists are truly compatible with anyone else?
While […]